of all the bars on the westside, she had to walk into mine . . .

[alexeye]

so, the k2 situation came to an abrupt resolution last night. j1, k1 and i went to father's office for happy hour, with a couple of old friends from college, and there she was, having dinner with another friend. so we talked, right in the middle of the bar, which was really uncomfortable. i would have vastly preferred to wait until some later point, to discuss things privately, but she really wanted to do it right. that. moment. with our friends looking on. which is another reason why i basically said what i did: that i really couldn't overlook her behavior, or, rather, her cavalier brush-off of said behavior. i apologized several times for being snippy, but she didn't seem to take any responsibility for her own actions. it wasn't pretty, but i feel glad that i was able to hold my own, especially under such difficult circumstances.

Comments

[seriousleopold.livejournal.com]

How uncomfortable to do that in the middle of a bar! At least you got to get things out in the open, even if you don't feel you acheived a resolution.

[kickasphalt.livejournal.com]

anyone who would suggest that you resolve it in the middle of a bar isn't going to get it. i'm coming in on the tail end of this, so forgive my ignorance when i ask, "is this someone you want to keep in your life?"

if so, it sounds like you've got to determine what sorts of situations create this dynamic, and then avoid being in them with her. does that make sense? for example, i had a friend named Dena who was A LOT of fun to go out dancing with, or to just chill and rent movies. but chances were, if she met a guy while out and about, she'd leave me stranded (i didn't drive then). we talked about it, but she still didn't get it. i recognized that that wasn't going to change, and always had a backup plan to get home/crash somewhere if she blew me off. then i got the benefit of her company in ways that worked, but no anger/hassle when she behaved badly.

of course, now that i think about it, that wasn't the best example. (and now i'd just not be bothered at ALL, and since you're moving soon, this is probably all moot...)

[alexeye.livejournal.com]

it's true, i just don't think she's someone i can have in my life anymore. she was fun on occasion, but her overwhelming sense of drama and issues with mutual friends really killed that fun. and i'm so hassled with moving right now that i can't deal with resurrecting a seriously damaged friendship.

i know she's really upset about the whole deal, and i feel badly about it but . . . i'm not real torn up right now.

[kickasphalt.livejournal.com]

i think you've got the right idea. good luck packing and stuff! will you be in Chicago by the 5th?